Tuesday, December 8, 2009

Thank you for your kind thoughts and words

Some of you might have noticed my absence. In a previous post I told you about my husband's Aunt being in a coma, and the doctor was calling in a specialist to see if she had any brain activity or not.
Unfortunately for Aunt Bonnie, they didn't find enough brain activity that would make her able to breathe on her own, or even be aware of the world around her. Her sister opted to take her off the respirator despite some of our protest, and she's gone onto a place where she's with her beloved husband.

One of the amazing things about Bonnie was she was not a quitter. She had suffered from polo almost all of her life. Despite being in pain, and walking with the aide of crutches and braces on her legs, she insisted on taking care of herself. She never used a handicapped license or parked in a handicapped zone. She always did as much as her broken body would allow her. My husband's Uncle David was immediately smitten with her the minute they laid eyes on each other, and they had happiness together for over thirty five years.

One of the things I will always remember about Bonnie and David is they both had a very contagious laugh. Both of them laughed frequently and when they laughed it was a whole body laugh and you couldn't help but laugh with them. I loved it.

Since they couldn't have children, they kidnapped Chris when he was a teenager almost every weekend and spoiled him rotten. Chris has always considered them his "adoptive" parents. Chris has said one of his favorite memories is introducing his Aunt Bonnie to Sir Mix Alot's, Baby Got Back. He said they both wore out that song on his cd from playing it all the time.

When David was diagnosed with Cancer, neither one gave up hope. David died less than a month after his diagnosis, and Bonnie hasn’t' been the same since. Her sister had been staying with her, and according to her sister they had an argument. Three days later they found Bonnie unconscious, with bruises all over her face and neck and laying on the floor. There is an investigation, and hopefully we'll find out what really happened to our Beloved Aunt.

Her funeral is Thursday. I told Chris that she'll be right where she wanted to be; right at David's side.

I'm not going to pretend that today hasn't been a difficult day. Both Chris and I have been in a funk, but seeing how some of my friends have embraced my book made me realize how much even my online friends mean so much too me. I was happily shocked how much y'all like Ryan and Blake and how they met. I loved them and I have every intention of continuing their story. Thank you for taking a chance on a very green author and reading my book. I'm hoping the next book will be even better.

Thank you for being there.


  1. What a difficult thing to go through. I'm so sorry. A loss is difficult enough without the unanswered questions and hard decisions. Hugs. I'm glad you are finding strength and refuge in your authorship. Thinking of you.

  2. I wasn't kidding when I said I loved your book. It was a great escape and a sweet romance while I read it.
    I'm sorry to hear about Aunt Bonnie. All of my hugs and good thoughts are for you.

  3. I'm so sorry, Shell Bell. I'm happy to see that they are investigating her fall. It certainly is raises some red flags!
    We're here for you Shell Bell if you need anything.
    Ryan and Blake were fabulous, BTW!

  4. She sounded like a very strong and fun loving person. I'm sorry for your and your husbands loss.

  5. Oh, I am so sorry about your loss. She sounds like she was an wonderful person. You're right that she's in a better place with the person she loves. I'll be keeping you all in my prayers and I hope that you get the answers you need.

  6. I'm so sorry for your loss, Shellie. You and Chris will be in my thoughts.

  7. Thank you all for your kind words and prayers. Tomorrow will be a difficult day for Chris especially. I appreciate your friendship and your kindness.